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Inkanta Group: Admins Posts: 1453 Joined: Feb. 2000 Posted: May 22 2015, 12:25 The Tubular.net team sends its heartfelt condolences to Mike and his family upon the passing of Mike's son, Dougal. May you find peace and solace at this challenging and sad time. -------------- "No such thing as destiny; only choices exist." From:  Moongarden's "Solaris." Back to top

Philippe Tavares Group: Members Posts: 1613 Joined: Feb. 2005 Posted: May 22 2015, 12:55 Yes very very sad ! Poor Mike , poor Oldfield family ! so sad for all of them !!! My thoughts for them and condolances to their family !!! Back to top

falk Group: Members Posts: 55 Joined: Dec. 2012 Posted: May 22 2015, 14:11 very sad news indeed. I surely hope mike finds his way through this Back to top

timshen Group: Members Posts: 684 Joined: Mar. 2001 Posted: May 23 2015, 11:33 So sad. Rest in Peace Dougal. -------------- Expect Great Things. Attempt Great Things. Back to top

Delfín Group: Members Posts: 667 Joined: Nov. 2000 Posted: May 24 2015, 11:09 A great hug Mike. Probably there's nothing in the world that can consolate you now, but just let me tell you you're the most amazing musician I've ever known and an overwhelmingly unique and genuine person as well. May Doug rest at peace. -------------- The most precious thing I possess, is knowing the answer's yes Back to top

Starwatcher Group: Members Posts: 129 Joined: June 2004 Posted: May 24 2015, 15:10 Although I don't have any children on my own I think to lose a child is the hardest loss you can imagine. So my deeply felt sympathy goes to Mike and the whole Oldfield Family. -------------- "...but every while I would remember..." Back to top

First_Excursion Group: Members Posts: 280 Joined: Aug. 2012 Posted: May 24 2015, 19:41 This is so sad. My sincere condolences. Back to top

mart Group: Members Posts: 24 Joined: Dec. 2010 Posted: May 25 2015, 06:08 Micheal my condolences and support for the los off your son Dougal. Give yourself the time to grief and let all your feelings come out, do not let it in. For Dougal rest in piece. Back to top

iPlatinumBells427 Group: Awaiting Authorisation Posts: 11 Joined: April 2015 Posted: May 25 2015, 18:19 Hope Mike is feeling okay soon, we all love him Back to top

Legend Group: Members Posts: 70 Joined: Oct. 2005 Posted: May 26 2015, 04:51 What a tragic loss! My sincere condolences and thoughts. Back to top

Inkanta Group: Admins Posts: 1453 Joined: Feb. 2000 Posted: May 26 2015, 19:46 I wish Mike deep peace. Not even time completely heals this life-altering event for a parent on so many levels, but the distance of time will add perspective and can console. The road ahead will be a different one that expected, but it can still bring sweetness one day. -------------- "No such thing as destiny; only choices exist." From:  Moongarden's "Solaris." Back to top

Bradnorman Group: Members Posts: 142 Joined: Oct. 2011 Posted: May 28 2015, 11:45 I've only just heard about the passing of Mike's son Dougal. It was such sad news, and my heart goes out to Mike and his family at this most difficult time. To lose any close relative is bad enough, but to lose a son or daughter must be truely awful.   Rest in peace Dougal -------------- ‘Is my team ploughing,    'That I was used to drive   And hear the harness jingle    When I was man alive?' Life is arbitrary Back to top

Inkanta Group: Admins Posts: 1453 Joined: Feb. 2000 Posted: May 29 2015, 13:12 Mike Oldfield Personal just re-opened over on FB. Mike appreciates the sentiments that have been expressed around the cyber world (he made that statement before I posted this topic) but there is to be no mention of Dougal’s passing there—only his music as per Caroline.   I ask rhetorically, would it really be a bad thing to eventually see (even if not reading) where 1,000 people have wished you well and have expressed sympathy?  While I respect Mike’s and Caroline’s decision, I don’t agree with it. Our love of Mike’s music can’t help but to spill over into concern for his well-being from time-to-time.  For those who love his music and have lost their own children (and there are some amongst us), it is especially hard-hitting and some may need to express condolences. Many of us may need and want to. I certainly did, as have some of you. We all express grief in different ways, and some people find it helpful to talk about it and others do not. I say this last statement as someone who has had coursework in death and dying and is a hospice volunteer. Any of my personal experiences don't count here. As one of my co-admins reminded me, after John Lennon died, Yoko wanted no mention of it. But then she saw the effect that silence was having on his fans and rescinded, even offering a program.  Of course, this is a different situation, but to try to repress people from expressing their condolences seems to me to be misguided. There are at least a couple of places where that’s been able to happen—here and also at Mike Oldfield on Record and probably other places, as well.  [edited by M-C] If Mike were to see this, he soooo has my love and sympathy. I wish I could wave a magick wand or weave a magick spell to restore happiness and joy for him. But alas, time is the only magick we have in this situation, and it is very slow and doesn’t always work so well. -------------- "No such thing as destiny; only choices exist." From:  Moongarden's "Solaris." Back to top

Nige Group: Members Posts: 26 Joined: Sep. 2007 Posted: June 02 2015, 02:10 Sorry but I don't entirely agree with the previous post. Like everyone here, I feel desperately sad that this has happened but we do need to remember that the Mike Oldfield we 'know' has a personal life that we are not a part of and one that, in particular, he has a right to set boundaries to.  If that means him taking down his Facebook page for a while or requesting that postings are restricted to his music rather than recent events, then so be it - it is his music that he has chosen to share with the world, not his personal life. It is a sad fact of life that a small, but nevertheless significant, cross section of society use family events such as weddings & funerals to get closer to their idols and social networking has enabled news of venues to be spread almost instantaneously.  It is absolutely right that the Oldfield family should be able to pay their last respects without constantly wondering whether everyone is there for the right reasons and taking down the Facebook page for a while was a sensible strategy. I am in the fortunate position of not ever having had to go through the loss of a child but I have lost both parents over the last 5 years.  What I have learned is that not every expression of condolence is helpful and those without either proper thought or knowledge can make things worse and, unfortunately, alongside all of the benefits that social networking can bring, we also have to contend with an avalanche of often vacuous comment.  Certain members of the fan community may 'need' to send their condolences but the real question here is do the Oldfield family and, in particular, Mike either 'need' or want to read them.  Our obsession with Mike and his music means that we do have knowledge of elements of his personal life - e.g. family names, birthday, where he lives/lived etc. but let's not forget that, to him, we are strangers.  I don't think this is about being 'repressed' but just about understanding that this element of his life is off limits and respecting it. If we want to help the Oldfield family at this time, then let's respect their wishes and understand that grief and condolence is far more than a few words on a website. Back to top

Tati The Sentinel Group: Members Posts: 3360 Joined: Feb. 2002 Posted: June 02 2015, 14:01 As someone who was born the same year as him,it was very shocking to read the news and not feeling some sort of a grief for the Oldfield family really. IMO the way that the whole situation was dealt on FB was very confusing and the page should had been closed way before any piece of news was available online to protect his privacy. At this stage we need to respect his wishes. -------------- "But it's always the outsider, the black sheep, that becomes the blockbuster." - Mike Oldfield, 2014 "I remember feeling that I'd been judged unfairly and that I was going to prove them wrong." - Peter Davison, 2011 Back to top

MikeArnold Group: Members Posts: 26 Joined: Mar. 2008 Posted: July 12 2015, 21:29 So very sad to hear about this. Could not find the words at the time, still cannot.  Deepest condolences to you Mike and all of the family. Back to top

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