Joined: Sep. 2007
||Posted: June 02 2015, 02:10
Sorry but I don't entirely agree with the previous post.
Like everyone here, I feel desperately sad that this has happened but we do need to remember that the Mike Oldfield we 'know' has a personal life that we are not a part of and one that, in particular, he has a right to set boundaries to. If that means him taking down his Facebook page for a while or requesting that postings are restricted to his music rather than recent events, then so be it - it is his music that he has chosen to share with the world, not his personal life.
It is a sad fact of life that a small, but nevertheless significant, cross section of society use family events such as weddings & funerals to get closer to their idols and social networking has enabled news of venues to be spread almost instantaneously. It is absolutely right that the Oldfield family should be able to pay their last respects without constantly wondering whether everyone is there for the right reasons and taking down the Facebook page for a while was a sensible strategy.
I am in the fortunate position of not ever having had to go through the loss of a child but I have lost both parents over the last 5 years. What I have learned is that not every expression of condolence is helpful and those without either proper thought or knowledge can make things worse and, unfortunately, alongside all of the benefits that social networking can bring, we also have to contend with an avalanche of often vacuous comment. Certain members of the fan community may 'need' to send their condolences but the real question here is do the Oldfield family and, in particular, Mike either 'need' or want to read them. Our obsession with Mike and his music means that we do have knowledge of elements of his personal life - e.g. family names, birthday, where he lives/lived etc. but let's not forget that, to him, we are strangers. I don't think this is about being 'repressed' but just about understanding that this element of his life is off limits and respecting it.
If we want to help the Oldfield family at this time, then let's respect their wishes and understand that grief and condolence is far more than a few words on a website.